EIBRU FACTOR

EIBRU FACTOR©

E – EXPECTATIONS There is no promise from God that ANYONE on this earth will do, say, or think, what we want, or think, we need them to do, say or think. There are only COMMANDMENTS from God of what YOU are to DO, SAY, or THINK, and PROMISES of what GOD will do in response to your obedience to His Word. When you put your EXPECTATIONS on others, you put them, and yourself, in bondage.

I – INTOLERANCE When others don’t live up to your Expectations, you become intolerant, consciously or unconsciously, hoping your intolerance will make them meet your expectations.

B – BITTERNESS When being intolerant does not cause others to meet your expectations, then you become bitter, hoping your bitterness will motivate the person you have put in bondage to meet your expectations.

R – RESENTMENT When the Bitterness doesn’t lead to the desired expectation from another, then you get filled with resentment.

U – UNFORGIVENESS When the Resentment doesn’t work, then you become Unforgiving. By now you have the entire Bitterness, Resentment and Unforgiveness cycle working full time in your life…all stemming from EXPECTATIONS of OTHERS that God never promised you.

I call this the EIBRU© factor because you go around with an underlying BREWING going on ALL DAY LONG. So think of the EIBRU© factor as:

I BREW

To break that brewing cycle, start living your life to the best of your ability and reach over to the lives of others to ENHANCE, not pull on. Pray for others, and do for others. The paradox of interdependence is a factor here. You ask others to help you, when you need help, but you don’t put EXPECTATIONS of help on others. People will help you, if you don’t put them into the bondage of EXPECTATION.

When you have a need, ASK GOD to provide. If you need support, or encouragement, or to have something done, you could mention it to your spouse, or to a relative or friend, but if you don’t get what you are seeking in a timely manner, don’t BREW, But, rather ASK GOD to provide what you are seeking, or if it is a chore to be done, start quietly going it yourself. If you really NEED help, then the Lord will send someone to help you. If you don’t need help, and can’t do the chore yourself, it is probably because it does not need to be done, or you have put the burden of the chore on the wrong person. Perhaps you are attempting to have a chore done that your spouse should be doing, or arranging to have done. Then you can quietly mention the chore, but don’t burden others, and put them, and yourself, into bondage with EXPECTATIONS.

Tags: Bitterness, Brewing, Burden, ENHANCE, expectations, Interdependence, resentment, unforgiveness